We talk to Lyndall Mitchell about balancing Mum-Time with Me-Time.
As a mum, how do you infuse wellbeing into everyday home life with your family?
For me it is about creating a space where we can all really unwind and connect. There are a few ways I help to create this:
TECH FREE – Establishing some tech free areas like bedrooms and tech curfews so we can all disconnect.
FAMILY VALUES – Having family values is really important and keeping these front and centre so the whole family is reminded of the string that pulls us together.
EATING WHOLE FOODS – We also love our veggie garden and chickens and we find this is a great way to get everyone on board to eat fresh, wholefoods more regularly.
SPA TIME – Given my love of all things spa, it won’t surprise you that I have managed to infuse this passion of spa into our family. We have an enviroswim pool & spa (enviroswim means it doesn’t have the usual chemicals) and we have a spa most nights as a family. We sit under the stars debriefing on the day and chatting. It is a great way to wind down and settle in for a restful night’s sleep for everyone.
What are your top three self-care tips for busy mums?
- 1 MINUTE – 1 minute of timeout is better than no minutes. Every day take at least one minute to meditate, breathe deeply, stretch your body or just to be still. It really helps to settle our thoughts and keep our stress levels in check.
- TOMORROW STARTS TODAY – at the end of the day take 1, 5 or 10 minutes to set yourself up for tomorrow. This takes the decision-making out of what you are doing first thing in the morning and really starts your day in a clear and organised routine, rather than in a state of rush and stress.
- BOOK A SPA TREATMENT – schedule a monthly time in your diary where you get a facial, massage or something that is nurturing and nourishing for you. We do spend a lot of our time giving and it is important to top up our own tank. A monthly treatment is a great way to do this. Just book your next treatment before you leave the spa as it seems to be the “busy proof” way to keep it regular. At Aurora Spa we get to see how the masters do it!
How do you make sure you get enough ‘me-time’ for yourself?
For me this is what I like to call the book ends of my day. This is the time of the day I know I can have to myself and I like to create a rhythm of habits so I can maximise my “me time”.
EVENING BOOKENDS – this is my reading and learning time. I love to read inspiring books and continue to develop and grow my knowledge. After my reading I write what I am grateful for in my gratitude journal, followed by a meditation before sleep.
MORNING BOOKENDS – this is my exercise time which includes walking with friends, yoga or running.
I find this rhythm helps to create a foundation of clarity so I can keep on purpose during the day. Sure, things will unexpectedly come up; however it’s what you make a habit of that matters not what happens every now and again. So it’s just committing to my bookends most of the time, and going with the flow when needed that I find gives me a good balance and allows me enough “me time”.
Lyndall Mitchell is an award-winning entrepreneur and Australia’s go-to wellness expert. She is the founder of Aurora Spa and ASPAR with more than two decades of life coaching experience working one-on-one and in groups with busy, successful people who are feeling overworked, overwhelmed and overscheduled. Lyndall recently co-authored her first book Chaos to Calm.